Erin IS Queen Bottler! Listen to the wise one!
For the record i dont think its stupid at all. I dont need to know what it is you cant talk about either. Its obvious that it was traumatic and things like that are difficult to talk about. Im sure many many of us have things that cause us trauma that we cant talk about too!
I think its the brains way of protecting itself. The feelings and emotions are so powerful and scary that in order to prevent overload the brain shuts that little piece of history off. Its just protecting you. But you DO need to get it out!
As for not being able to change the past.....well you are right. i think the thing that trips most people up is that they think there is no hope because the past events cant be changed. Healing past events isnt about getting in a time maching and maki9ng them all go away and be diferent cus thats just impossible and silly. Healing (through therapy/self help etc) is about learnign to see/hear/feel the past differently. Its about looking back at what happened with a different perspective and learning to see it in a way that is no longer damaging to ourselves. Ita about learning to forgive ourselvs and those that hurt us in order that we may live our lives again. Its NOT about forgetting. Its not about Vindicating the others actions either or making them seem "OK". It is about learning to see differently. when we see the past differently it DOES change.
Yup thats all
Take care
hugs and a small chicken called Steve
Matthew xxx
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