Acrasia

Ohmygod. This is a massive pet peeve for me on here, thankfully i haven't seen it much recently. I can understand someone quoting/splitting it when replying, but they should delete the quotes before posting because it just comes across as intimidating and makes the poster seem as if they think they're "superior" to everyone else.

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Ok so on from that. I have a problem with people actually repeating what others say, and i'm not meaning "quoting", i mean generally typing out exactly what someone else has said but adding nothing to it.
For me, if someone has said something i agree with, rather than writing it out myself (which would be pointless if i had nothing else to add) i would just quote and say "I agree with this". Done.

But i'm finding recently that more and more people, despite all having the same view/opinion and saying the same thing, are typing out what there opinion is, and targetting it towards the one or two individuals that actually don't have the same opinion as them. On a support site with people who have mental health issues, this can be very detrimental to someones state of mind - especially if the people they're "targetting" have pasts of bullying - because they're going to feel singled out and targetted it.

I see nothing wrong with one or two people saying "This is my opinion" and asking questions to someone else who has the opposite opinion to them, but when it gets above that line and more and more people join in, it's this one individual that is going to feel targetted and incredibly cornered - which i feel is when it gets personal, because the person feeling cornered is going to go into "defense mode" and start replying in a more personal manner because they're feeling attacked.

I'm not just speaking from my own personal experiences, i have seen this happen to a few other members during discussions/debates, and my heart has gone out to them because it's very upsetting to see someone feel cornered/targetted.

I don't feel it's necessary for 3-4-5-6 people to say the same thing to one person in a discussion. It's different if you have an even amount on both sides, but when it's just one possibly 2 individuals having to "fight" against so many people it's bound to turn personal, it's unavoidable.

I love having a debate/discussion with one or two people, because i'm known for always having the opposite opinion (think i'm missing a gene) but when you have so many people on you ALL saying the same thing with nothing to add, you do genuinly feel very intimidated.

I feel aswell that double standards can become a problem in discussions/debates. People know i've been in trouble a lot on RYL, therefor i am going to be kept a close eye on by the moderators - this is unavoidable and understandable. However, as soon as i step out of line i know my posts will be edited within minutes, but i find other members who step out of line, despite post reporting, it's left until a decision is made amongst the mods - despite obvious flaming/attacking comments in the members post. I feel these posts should be edited just as quickly because it can be very upsetting to the people it's aimed towards for it to sit there for days, it makes you feel humiliated. I'm just generally speaking here - nothing specific is springing to mind but it's just these ongoing problems i find need to be possibly looked into.

I know i'll get pounced upon for what i've said but nothing is meant in an offensive way or meant towards anyone inparticular, it's just observations i've made over recent months.