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Old 08-07-2009, 02:27 AM   #5
sapphire hearts
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My gf and I are both SIers, although we've been doing pretty well at stopping. But we don't talk about our own SI when we do, because when we're feeling really down, we're not good for each other. Sometimes SIer's have difficulty dealing with other people's self-inflicted injuries because they realise that when they self harm, their friends feel like they do after seeing you hurt yourself (I hope that makes sense). Although I don't think your friends are behaving in a great way, maybe it would be best to talk about your cuts/scars with people you know can deal with it in a better way. People who have emotional problems tend to group together, I know, but sometimes that can make things worse for everyone. I know that all your friends care about you, and are worried for you, it's just that some people, even people who've SIed themselves, don't deal with the fact that their friends are cutting in a rational, reasonable way. It might be that all you have to do is sit down with them and talk it through: explain that they're not helping you recover with their behaviour and ask them to stop. I know your friends are sincerely trying to help you, but even people who've cut themselves before can react the wrong way.
Take care, and I hope things work out with your friends. I'm here if you want to talk.
Katie x



Ask me mistakes I have made
Ask me whether what I have done is my life

Others have come, in their slow way -
And some have come to help, or to hurt -

Ask me what difference
Their strongest love or hate has made.

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