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advice
Hi,
im new on here and i was wondering if anyone could give me some advice. I have always had a very happy family life, my mum has always worked in one way or another, for example she ran a carehome from the bottom floor of my house for about 8 years.
About 5 years ago my mum and dad bought a large carehome, and my mum now runs it. My dad runs his own business too.
The problem is, my mum has become so so odd over the past six months, and having done a little bit of research it is quite clear she is having a midlife crisis, which is made worse by the menopause. She has become self centred, obessed with how she looks, completely uninterested in my dad or me (to the point she gets home from work at 6.30 and will go to bed at 7.30 ( she won't sleep btw.)) she talks constantly about, so and so told her she looks nice, so and so said they wish she was their mum, this man said i hope your husband knows how nice you look, blah blah blah.
She has always been cherished as a mum and as a wife, but she seems hell bent on thinking of noone but herself and she is really upsetting my dad, who just feels like every, oh he said im attractive, or how lovely is that man over and over again, is chipping away at him. He is getting angry and the whole thing is spiralling.
I live 3 hours away, and am becoming less and less inclined to go home because I find her so incredibly difficult to live with now, but i feel guilty because my dad is left to cope with her. She is completely irrational, if i put any of this to her (which ive tried) her eyes glaze over, and she makes "uh huh" noises sporadically to appear as though she is listening.
I just don't know how to make any of this more manageable for us. I want to go back to my home, with my partner and just live my life, happily, but i know i ought to come home often to support my dad because he has to deal with it day in day out. eugh?!
I was wondering if anyone had any advice, or a similar experiecne? I want her to see a psychiatrist because she is clearly mentally unstable because she has never behaved this was before. how do i go about getting her to see someone, and for her to tell the whole truth about everything? i don't think she knows that she is tearing our family apart...
im sorry this was so long, i just needed to get it all out
Charlotty xxxx
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