^ that sounds like really good advice.
i have to say, from what i've read here, it sounds like the relationship between you and your boyfriend is a really bad dynamic. you're very unstable around sexual issues, for understandable reasons, and he is too. you need to feel safe and in control within sex, and he is betraying you by using sex for his own needs despite how detrimental it is to you.
i can't exactly tell you to take a break from him, because i imagine you feel as if you desperately need him (correct me if i'm wrong, though) and are scared of hurting him. i think this is just too painful and damaging for both of you.
but, maybe if you both get proper help that would be beneficial. perhaps seeing a psychosexual therapist or a relationship therapist - i'm not sure, i don't know much about either.
but this just sets off alarm bells for me.
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