maybe organise a surprise for the night planned to go to that club? or explain that you've been there before, it's really rough and you'd rather go somewhere that you've not been before?
you were too drunk to consent. whether you term it rape or sexual assualt depends on what you term as penetration, orally yes you were penetrated... some would class that assault. what is important is that you did not consent, you were unable and ithas hurt you. and how you deal with it is important too. what is not important is any kind of legal label. its how you feel, what you interpret it as and what that means for you. the only times legal labels matter is if you are persuing either a police complaint or a court case.
have you had any kind of counselling? it might help you lay some of the issues to rest. mand x
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