RYL Forums - View Single Post

Casper_Fading · 11-05-2009, 10:57 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Acrasia

Exactly.
And really, i'm not understanding why it bothers people so much? Of course, if one member is constantly posting on various boards and flooding the place with "I need help" but aren't actually getting it professionally then i can understand people being pissed, even that gets my goat.

But if a few members find it incredibly hard to actually seek help outside of RYL (and they know RYL is more of a support site than anything) - then you can't force them, all you can do is advise them, and even then if you can't be bothered you aren't being forced to do so. Some people can't ask for help professionally due to personal reasons - parents, university, school, college, work.

It took me MONTHS to go to the doctors about what i thought at the time was depression - if i had known of RYL then i would have relied heavily on it to get me the support i needed and the encouragement to seek professional help.

That's the thing. You would have been using it for support and encouragment to get help. To many people use RYL instead of professional help. They use it as an excuse not to try. They rely on RYL in ways that are unhealthy. It can help you support and encourage you. But it can't do what professionals do.

11-05-2009, 10:57 AM	#232
Casper_Fading It's okay. I have a supersoaker. Join Date: Aug 2004 Location: Over there and to the left I am currently:	Quote: Originally Posted by Acrasia Exactly. And really, i'm not understanding why it bothers people so much? Of course, if one member is constantly posting on various boards and flooding the place with "I need help" but aren't actually getting it professionally then i can understand people being pissed, even that gets my goat. But if a few members find it incredibly hard to actually seek help outside of RYL (and they know RYL is more of a support site than anything) - then you can't force them, all you can do is advise them, and even then if you can't be bothered you aren't being forced to do so. Some people can't ask for help professionally due to personal reasons - parents, university, school, college, work. It took me MONTHS to go to the doctors about what i thought at the time was depression - if i had known of RYL then i would have relied heavily on it to get me the support i needed and the encouragement to seek professional help. That's the thing. You would have been using it for support and encouragment to get help. To many people use RYL instead of professional help. They use it as an excuse not to try. They rely on RYL in ways that are unhealthy. It can help you support and encourage you. But it can't do what professionals do.
	"Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind." - Dr. Seuss