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griddlebone · 07-04-2009, 04:31 PM

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Originally Posted by Le Almighty Kitten

Oddly, my concerns on the PE thread actually had very, very little to do with paedophillia.

I don't think paedophiles are at a higher rate in schools than elsewhere as there are abusers everywhere. I'm interested by this though:

I wouldn't take it for granted that a teacher wasn't a paedophile, if that makes sense. Of course, they've had CRB checks, but those only show up evidence for those who've been discovered by the police to be abusers. We'll still send our son to school though, it's a matter of assessing risk.

There is definitely more fear, but i think it's entirely understandable. Paedophiles have been uncovered in all professions and when people feel they can't een trust the police - as an example - they're going to be wary. Also, however safety conscious a parent is, there's always an element of fear; it's frightening to hear the stories on the news, children are still abused by those in positions of authority (and even worse) positions of trust.

If you saw a teacher hugging your son would you automatically think that there was something dodgy going on? Because thats whats really frustrating is that people actually think that!So if say your child (universal you) fell over and they were clamouring for a hug, would you prefer the person in charge to ignore that and just tell them its alright, or would you be ok with them hugging your child.

Yeah Katy, its very difficult having to second guess yourself and if a child wants a hug, usually ill do it, or if they hold my hand, ill hold their hand because Im not going to shut off what they obviously need because its not seen as 'right' or whatever.

07-04-2009, 04:31 PM	#7
griddlebone Head of Chat/Forum Mod. Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: London. I am currently:	Quote: Originally Posted by Le Almighty Kitten Oddly, my concerns on the PE thread actually had very, very little to do with paedophillia. I don't think paedophiles are at a higher rate in schools than elsewhere as there are abusers everywhere. I'm interested by this though: I wouldn't take it for granted that a teacher wasn't a paedophile, if that makes sense. Of course, they've had CRB checks, but those only show up evidence for those who've been discovered by the police to be abusers. We'll still send our son to school though, it's a matter of assessing risk. There is definitely more fear, but i think it's entirely understandable. Paedophiles have been uncovered in all professions and when people feel they can't een trust the police - as an example - they're going to be wary. Also, however safety conscious a parent is, there's always an element of fear; it's frightening to hear the stories on the news, children are still abused by those in positions of authority (and even worse) positions of trust. If you saw a teacher hugging your son would you automatically think that there was something dodgy going on? Because thats whats really frustrating is that people actually think that!So if say your child (universal you) fell over and they were clamouring for a hug, would you prefer the person in charge to ignore that and just tell them its alright, or would you be ok with them hugging your child. Yeah Katy, its very difficult having to second guess yourself and if a child wants a hug, usually ill do it, or if they hold my hand, ill hold their hand because Im not going to shut off what they obviously need because its not seen as 'right' or whatever.
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