Like others have said hun, it's normal. You come to associate being hurt with certain things. With some people it's smells, others it's words, others (like you) it's touch. You need to remind yourself that whoever is touching your back now is someone that you're allowing to touch your back. Keep telling yourself that it's going to be ok, and that you're safe. Maybe make sure that when someone's touching your back that you can see them.... to help remind yourself that that person is safe.
Other than that, I think it's down to pracitce hunni. The more you try it, the more you'll get used to it. Does your ex know why you flinch when he touches your back?
Chrissy
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