I am going to add another viewpoint to this list. If I OD, I do not do it for the attention, I do it because I have hit a crash and am suicidally depressive.. that is part of my conditition. If I need the medical help, I will seek it. If I mention it on RYL it is because someone has asked me how I am and I am making an effort to actually be honest and state how I am and not blag the 'I am fine' that I use everywhere else in life. I am stating it for the emotional side, not for attention, not for someone to tell me to go to a&e, nor is it a lie or for effects. The Mods are not to blame for that, and I do not expect anyone to be able to help me. It nice to not be immiately shouted at or told I should not do that unless I want to die. Truth is, at those moments, I do want to die. I have wanted to, many times. It is people on RYL and my boyfriend that have saved my life, many times by simply being there and being emotional support when I need it. I blame no one for it. If you are not well enough to support, then say so. Dont attack me, or the mods, for the fact that in that moment I may need support. My extremes of mood are not rational, sometimes I need another person to explain the truth of the matter to me, yes, once or twice that has been through RYL - most of the time though, it is after the fact.
Key points: RYL is a support site, not a crisis line or NHS Direct. All people here can do is offer support. If you have done that, that is all you can be expected to do. Whether you are a mod, or a member.
Secondly: Stop attacking people. Stop blaming the mods. Stop attacking people for feeling bad and wanting to die, or ODing or feeling irrational. It has happened to all of us at some point. We should be helping, not telling off.
Lastly: I know some people do attention seek. BUT, dont accuse the majority on the basis of what a small minority has done. Some of us are in genuine trouble and feeling genuie fear, pain, anxiety or needs for tears, hugs and support. I consider myself amongst those that every once in a while want a hug, or somewhere where we will NOT be judged for being honest. Please, guys, let that be RYL.
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