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Steel Maiden · 11-03-2009, 10:15 PM

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Originally Posted by peace>x<reptiles

I'm sorry... it sounds like your mom is hurt and using you to release her anger. No matter how hurt she is, she has no right to try and make you hate him for something he did to her. Everyone makes mistakes, and while I can see why she doesn't want anything to do with him, as long as he is good to you, there's no reason for her to want you not to see him.

If you don't mind my asking, why do you live with your mom? Can't you live with your dad, or tell your mom absolutely no to the emails (i know parents can be good at manipulation) and tell her you ARE seeing your dad, because he is your dad and you love him? Maybe threaten to move out if she won't listen?

It just doesn't seem fair for your mom to drag you through her anger and hurt, especially when you already have so many other things to deal with. So try and stand up to her. You have every right to see him, no matter what he did to her. Their relationship shouldn't have to affect your feelings about him if you don't want it to. As long as he is loving toward you, that's all that matters.

As for seeing him and not telling her, I personally don't think that's a problem. You're an adult; you can see who you want.

Take care. :)

My Dad is not giving my Mum money; he will only give her money if she moves out. I still live with both my parents, but I will be going to Cambridge University in October this year.
I'm afraid I can't say 'no' to my Mum; she has me wrapped around her little finger.
I will see my Dad behind my Mum's back because I still love my Dad and he still loves me.

11-03-2009, 10:15 PM	#8
Steel Maiden There is no place like 127.0.0.1 Join Date: Sep 2007 Location: London	Quote: Originally Posted by peace>x<reptiles I'm sorry... it sounds like your mom is hurt and using you to release her anger. No matter how hurt she is, she has no right to try and make you hate him for something he did to her. Everyone makes mistakes, and while I can see why she doesn't want anything to do with him, as long as he is good to you, there's no reason for her to want you not to see him. If you don't mind my asking, why do you live with your mom? Can't you live with your dad, or tell your mom absolutely no to the emails (i know parents can be good at manipulation) and tell her you ARE seeing your dad, because he is your dad and you love him? Maybe threaten to move out if she won't listen? It just doesn't seem fair for your mom to drag you through her anger and hurt, especially when you already have so many other things to deal with. So try and stand up to her. You have every right to see him, no matter what he did to her. Their relationship shouldn't have to affect your feelings about him if you don't want it to. As long as he is loving toward you, that's all that matters. As for seeing him and not telling her, I personally don't think that's a problem. You're an adult; you can see who you want. Take care. :) My Dad is not giving my Mum money; he will only give her money if she moves out. I still live with both my parents, but I will be going to Cambridge University in October this year. I'm afraid I can't say 'no' to my Mum; she has me wrapped around her little finger. I will see my Dad behind my Mum's back because I still love my Dad and he still loves me.
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