I believe you no less choose to be gay as you do to be straight. It is just the way you feel. You are attracted to who you are attracted to, I don't think you can make yourself feel drawn to any particular gender.
Attraction is a very personal thing. What one person sees as attractive, another person may not. It's not a choice to see someone as beautiful or sexy or kind or whatever. It is your perception of that person. I won't pretend to know what these perceptions are based on...could be innate, could be conditioned. Who knows? But it certainly isn't a concious choice.
And just as a thought...how can you choose to be straight or gay? I mean, to choose would imply you either know what both is like or know what neither is like and are therefore 'picking your path'. It would imply you had no preference to begin with so where would the 'choice' come from.
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