I don't think you are being picky at all, it's not fair on you and others if you are triggered by cuts. Especially if she knows there are other self harmers in the group.
maybe you should talk to her and just explain that you don't mind her being open and honest about her self harm, but having new cuts out is triggering for you. Maybe because looking at cuts doesn't trigger her, she thinks that it doesn't trigger you either. i don't know.
Hope everything turns out OK.
stay safe.
xxx
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