When my parents did this, me and all my siblings knew they hadnt been getting along. Sadly my mom and dad just didnt get on and we all stayed with my mom. My dad got a girlfriend and to be honest we all hate her... Im not sure if its normal but its always hard to accept a parents new partner. If you have siblings it can be tougher. I am the oldest and had to put up with questions such as "Whens dad coming home?" ....
Its not always to nice. It may depend on who moves out and how far away that parent goes... then they will both decide where is best. They shouldnt expect you to move out alone. I sometimes blamed myself although its not, so dont blame yourself. For now feeling numb and confused is always the general feeling. Try not to ever take a favored side as it can lead to always being biased and thinking badly of the other. My parents fight alot and often both say different things making the other look worst.
General situations and feelings I would sum as:
- Dont take a side in an argument
- Try not to dislike the parents partner.. We cant change them if they love each other
- If they feel they would be happier this way, slowly come to accept it. It can seem very confusing still after a long time
- Try and stay in contact with both if one moves a bit further way
- Generally feelings are numb, confused, upset, it can also be a bit distressing.
Hope that kinda helps. Feel free to pm
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