yeah i used to smoke too and i could def see it doing that to you...
i figure smoking is like drinking, right or wrong in general, you shouldn't do it if you're gonna hurt others physically OR emotionally while on it. if he's going to be rude and hurtful to you while smoking, he should make sure he has no contact with you while smoking, even if that means he gives someone else his phone before getting high. if you think he's only acting like this cause he's stoned, talk to him about it. it's really no excuse for being a jerk cause he's the one who put it in his body. Explain that if he cares enough he'll take the measures necessary to make sure his smoking (and drinking) doesn't affect you. And since you're not into drinking, while he drinks, he shouldn't ignore you for it. This is kinda a lame example but maybe the same... my boyfriend loves world of warcraft. i have no interest. he can play it, i don't care. but he can't hang out with me less, ignore his responsibilities, not go shopping for food when we need to cause either he's playing WoW or he didn't get something else done playing WoW. And my bf doesn't drink either. But I do. So I wouldn't drink if I thought it was going to inconvience him or ignore him so I could drink. It's about priorities. You guys should both be much higher on each other's priority list than drinking, smoking, or any other fun type thing you do. So maybe see if he's willing to check his smoking enough to make sure you aren't getting blown off and then decide by his reaction whether he is trying to make this work or not???
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