It's not surprising for you to feel such a massive conflict of emotions, this is an emmensly difficult situation, but as you've said yourself only you can make the decison.
At the end of the day your parents are trying to protect you, but I'm sure they would try to understand if you did go, even if they were a bit stung at first. They just don't want to see you getting messed around and if your boyfriend has made little or no attempt to come and see you or keep in conact, or displayed any desire to meet them, you can understand that they have a less than positive view of him. Even though this is his first relationship, it's not really an excuse to behave the way he is doing.
You may feel like it's the right thing to stay with him and nurture him, but you can't make someone develop and change. You said in your post you felt sometimes like you wanted to throw everything into it and try to make it work, but do you think he would do the same? Because ultimately this relationship won't work unless you put equal effort in.
If you feel unsure then perhaps you need some time, if anything you should be able to tell him how you are feeling without him punishing you for it. If he cares he'll let you take as long as you need and as he only lives an hour away, could you not go another day? Or as I have previously mentioned, could he not visit you?
Sorry if I seem to be damning of him, it just seems a bit unfair on you to have to go to all the effort, and it appears he's not doing much to show you how much he cares about you. Sorry I don't want to make you sad or anything, Good luck. I hope whatever happens it works out the best for you.
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