I wrote about it when it happened so some people know, we got married in August this year and in October he started having an affair, I found out at the beginning on November and we split. He has no interest or intention of apologising for what he did, he seems to think it was no big deal, that he was just being a bit dumb (he tells me it was stopped when I found out and that it was no more than a couple of dates but in my world you don't go on dates when you are married).
I strongly believe that marriage is for life and so I am going to be stuck being a divorcee when I don't believe in it.
It was my uncle (a minister) who married us and he has told me that it is not my fault and that the church will not hold it against me but I committed for life and he didn't, he thinks that is just what happens and you move on, that marriage is nothing other than a nice party and a holiday (even more galling, he did not pay a penny of it).
We had been together 4 1/2 years when he left and I had built my life around him, I feel there is nothing holding me together any more.
There are 'real' people I can talk to but I am aware that they have heard it and are getting on with their own lives (not that they don't care but I can't keep moaning about how miserable I am, that is not fair on them).
He does not want to come back, he says he has more important priorities (he uses he son from his first marriage as an excuse).
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