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BlueB · 25-12-2008, 07:15 PM

I was told yesterday by my therapist and psychiatrist that if I am really telling the truth then I have no choice but to let them inform social services and the police about the abuse I suffered....I don't understand how they can do this to me.They said that due to the Baby P case they have new protocols they have to follow and because my niece still has close contact with my dad they are risking their jobs if they don't report it and it's later found that something is happening to her,that sometimes they have to break confidentiality.I feel so guilty because of course I want to protect my niece but I don't feel ready to go to the police yet and for me,this isn't what therapy has been about....I'm terrified that everything's going to fall apart,that if I don't retract what I've told my therapist then I will be forced into something I don't want to do and I know this will completely break me because after all this time it will be my word against my dad's and I know who everyone will believe.I felt so attacked yesterday in my session with them,they kept asking me questions about the abuse and I was so upset that I couldn't answer and they turned it around on me asking me if I couldn't answer did that mean I wasn't telling the truth and kept saying that police will be a lot harsher on me than they were being...it made me remember why I hate psychiatrists so much and I felt I wasn't listened to at all.I was speaking to my therapist like 3 times a week before all this became such a mess and all they said at the end of my session was to "seek support" if I needed it over Xmas....I don't know of anywhere else to get support from and I don't know how to cope with this on my own again.I have an appointment with them both again on the 6th Jan and the psychiatrist said if I don't go she will use the time to inform social services and the police...I've been holding on all this time because my therapist said that if I killed myself then all my records would be released after I died and everyone would find out then but if they are going to do it without my permission then surely there is nothing to keep hanging on for?I am free to go now...I hate the thought of the mess I am going to leave behind but I can't cope with it.

25-12-2008, 07:15 PM	#16
BlueB Join Date: May 2008 Location: East Midlands I am currently:	I was told yesterday by my therapist and psychiatrist that if I am really telling the truth then I have no choice but to let them inform social services and the police about the abuse I suffered....I don't understand how they can do this to me.They said that due to the Baby P case they have new protocols they have to follow and because my niece still has close contact with my dad they are risking their jobs if they don't report it and it's later found that something is happening to her,that sometimes they have to break confidentiality.I feel so guilty because of course I want to protect my niece but I don't feel ready to go to the police yet and for me,this isn't what therapy has been about....I'm terrified that everything's going to fall apart,that if I don't retract what I've told my therapist then I will be forced into something I don't want to do and I know this will completely break me because after all this time it will be my word against my dad's and I know who everyone will believe.I felt so attacked yesterday in my session with them,they kept asking me questions about the abuse and I was so upset that I couldn't answer and they turned it around on me asking me if I couldn't answer did that mean I wasn't telling the truth and kept saying that police will be a lot harsher on me than they were being...it made me remember why I hate psychiatrists so much and I felt I wasn't listened to at all.I was speaking to my therapist like 3 times a week before all this became such a mess and all they said at the end of my session was to "seek support" if I needed it over Xmas....I don't know of anywhere else to get support from and I don't know how to cope with this on my own again.I have an appointment with them both again on the 6th Jan and the psychiatrist said if I don't go she will use the time to inform social services and the police...I've been holding on all this time because my therapist said that if I killed myself then all my records would be released after I died and everyone would find out then but if they are going to do it without my permission then surely there is nothing to keep hanging on for?I am free to go now...I hate the thought of the mess I am going to leave behind but I can't cope with it.