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ghosts in the machine · 24-12-2008, 11:58 AM

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Originally Posted by Lou_Pie

Yeah, I don't really know why I don't say no. I think it's partly because I've learned that it's easier, and partly because I want to please whoever I'm with a lot.

I'm like this too, so you're not alone. And we do learn that it's easier on us in the long run if we don't put up a fight because that usually brings more punishment. It's learned behaviour, which (thankfully) can slowly be unlearned.

I hope the ED clinic can help you. Do you know why your GP hasn't offered to refer you for further support with this?

24-12-2008, 11:58 AM	#7
ghosts in the machine coimeádaí rún Join Date: Jan 2006 I am currently:	Quote: Originally Posted by Lou_Pie Yeah, I don't really know why I don't say no. I think it's partly because I've learned that it's easier, and partly because I want to please whoever I'm with a lot. I'm like this too, so you're not alone. And we do learn that it's easier on us in the long run if we don't put up a fight because that usually brings more punishment. It's learned behaviour, which (thankfully) can slowly be unlearned. I hope the ED clinic can help you. Do you know why your GP hasn't offered to refer you for further support with this?
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