I agree in many ways - we can't change the past, and the best thing to do is accept, take the good bits with us and learn from & leave the bad. But I also agree with secrets&lies that we need people to help us do that. The responsibility for letting go of the past lies with us, but we need other people's love, acceptance, perspectives, and wisdom to help. But (sorry, lots of buts...!) we also have a responsibility to ourselves to find the people who give us that, and not repeat the patterns of the past in our relationships.
Simple to say... harder to do...!
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