Originally Posted by
Acrasia
There has often been big discussions about "sex jokes" in chat, and how it may offend / upset younger members - more often than not you will find someone having a banter about boobs (whoop - ahum) or some other sexual talk, despite the fact it isn't "meant" for chat, it still happens every night, because lets face it - the majority who do use chat are old enough to have a banter about it, so banning it completely would be near impossible.
Right, I just want to say all my following post is not just regarding the quote, it's just my ideas that came to mind because of this.
Erm it's not just younger members that can get offended by such conversation. Yes, it is more accepted in vets as we are mostly of an age where it is basically part of everyday life but I don't think that means it is ok to discuss it continually. I personally HATE banter about boobs for reasons I'm not prepared to go through with anyone and I also think it does come across as being very immature. So what if you have 'boobs' etc, 50% of the population do, they're not really special and it is something pretty immature to have constant convo's about. When you get a conversation that goes on for ages and ages discussing boobs it gets very wearing.
Yeah, I banter about them at times with my mates but we know what is appropriate and usually it lasts no longer than a few mins and is usually stuff like "hmmm I know who that photo is, can't forget those boobs" which then moves onto other related things (and yes, my friendship group does include the odd lad and lesbians but we are all mature enough to know when to stop). Boobs should not become the main focus of a convo and I don't see why a board which would solely lead to talk of that nature would benefit anyone.
One, however, where 'older' people feel more comfortable to talk however maybe and yeh, there will be some banter, some innuendo's and stuff but if there were to be a new room it should be one where this is in moderation and where if one person is uncomfortable with it then the topic changes.
I'm not trying to be a kill joy I'm just saying that I don't see the point in it if it is just going to be a room that ends up orientated around sex and nothing else.
I venture into Vets a lot and feel that at the moment the balance there is about right, though sometimes, like a few weeks ago, the sex talk does get a bit much. I see one of my mates at home and she's known me all the way through my teenage years but is quite a bit older than me. She is one of my best friends and when we talk it is a mixture of both banter/ innuendo along with other often more serious things or just general convo and that is what is necessary, a mixture that people can be relaxed with. I would hate to see a new room added that would just become thought of as the 'sex-talk' room as in my mind that is totally unnecessary and is one of the main things I dislike about chat at the moment, the total immature continuous talk about boobs that seems never ending at times (though I don't know what it is like at the moment, it may have changed since the rule change) so that is one thing which I would not like to happen.
Whilst I think another room for 'older' members/ vets may be useful I don't want it to become the place where all you talk about is sex. I don't feel that would benefit anyone.