Originally Posted by
sweetsunday
There are some things that only adults and older people will know about - however mentally mature you are.
So if you're 12 and have the mental maturity of a 30 year old, you still won't know about some of the stuff that the 'older' people will be talking about, just because you won't have experienced it.
That's not disrespectful to anyone, it's just how it is.
But anyways, I'm scared to go into the 'vets' section, cos its quite cliquey (spelling?)... I don't mean that to be disrespectful either, just that everyone knows each other and I don't fit in there. Hmm.
Come in and introduce yourself and people will talk to you :) But you can't get to know people if you don't take the first step! So just pop in and go, rah! And people will talk to you :)
Originally Posted by
PengyNoir
HEY! Give Free Spirit a break!! FFS! It was a simple question. You try being over 30 and being on a forum thats 90% teen. Its not easy. Its not ageist at all. If you are over 30 and self harm theses absolutely no where on the net to chat for that group of people. Its a simple fact! So give her a break and get off your tiny little self righteous horses!
Free Spirit, as some have mentioned there was a chat room made for Vets (older members). The reason it was made was that many felt intimidated by the younger members and couldnt relate to alot of the convo's in chat. However the forum was totally trolled by some of the regular chat members at the time who thought it hillarious to come and play in there and it scared those who wanted it away. Needless to say these were a few hardcore members who were nown for playing up.
As was said it didnt work. There simply werent and still arent the numbers to make it work. The trolls soon got bored but basically because of the lack of Vets who used it it was removed.
Also as you will find there are ALOT of younger members Who are incredibly mature and have alot to say and offer. Its something that can be a real eye opener to see such young and insightful people.
Take care Matthew
I'm only 24 but I know exactly where you're coming from matt :) And i know that, despite whatever maturity I may or may not claim there are some things I know zilch about and by being around would possibly make whoever was posting about the subject more uncomfortable.
Originally Posted by
Crysainta
Maybe this person wants to talk about menopause or some health issue that is typically unique to older individuals. If the op is talking about that, or some sexual dysfunction that occurs mostly among older people, then I can understand why she (or he) would not want to discuss it with the twelve to twenties crowd. I would be embarrassed to talk about certain issues with people young enough to be my children. There are plenty of kids wise beyond their years but it takes awhile of getting to know someone to figure out whether or not this is the case. I have known many teenagers who can fake maturity up to a certain point, until something serious happens. There are plenty who are sincerely mature too, so no reason for anyone to take offense. Then again, if that statement offends anyone then I can take a reasonable guess as to their maturity level. I don't care about what chatrooms or forums are created on RYL, but I thought people were getting unreasonably bitchy here.
Yesh! I agree with what you're saying crys :) I don't think maturity is being attacked... and it's well... immature to say "omg but i'm so mature, i know about stuff that will happen to a 30 year old even though i'm only 16..." because you can't know. Becasue you're not 30. And despite whatever maturity and life experience you may or may not have had, you have never been 30. I can say, I think this, but I don't know for sure becasue i've never been through it.
Originally Posted by
Crysainta
I don't think I've ever been cruel to anyone on RYL so I assume you are not talking to me. I don't know if there were groomers who went to Vets Chat specifically but that chat wasn't for over 30's. It was just for people from the Veteran Corner. I can, however, assure you that there were trolls.
I remember the trolls. I got totally stuffed around by them and that's when I stopped using chat.
I don't think an extra room will work. There just simply aren't enough people. I really do reccomend vet's corner. And if you really don't want to mention something around people under 30 then maybe make a post asking someone over that age group to pm you?
Anywho, that's my 2 cents worth :)