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Old 01-12-2008, 02:47 PM   #7
one_step_closer
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Negativity/pessimism

A pervasive, lifelong focus on the negative aspects of life while minimising or neglecting the positive or optimistic aspects. Usually includes an exaggerated expectation in a wide range of work, financial, or interpersonal situations that things will eventually go seriously wrong or that aspects of one's life that seem to be going well will ultimately fall apart. Usually involves an inordinate fear of making mistakes that might lead to financial collapse, loss, humiliation, or being trapped in a bad situation. Because potential negative outcomes are exaggerated, individuals with this schema are frequently characterised by chronic worry, vigilance, complaining, or indecision.

Bah. What did I just say up there: "The world IS dangerous, things do go wrong and keep going wrong even when they are right."

Punitiveness

The belief that people should be harshly punished for making mistakes. Involves the tendency to be angry, intolerant, punitive, and impatient with those people (including oneself) who do not meet one's expectations or standards. Usually includes difficulty forgiving mistakes in oneself or others because of a reluctance to consider extenuating circumstances, allow for human imperfection, or empathise with feelings.

It's alright for other people to make mistakes but not me. Of course I deserve to be punished because I am one big mistake.

(I'm really worried about being left alone with all of this through the holidays.)





I put it down on paper and then the ghost does not ache so much.

Don't try to calm the storm, calm yourself, the storm will pass.

You didn't come this far just to come this far.


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