It's great that you've found a sexuality to identify with. I identified as asexual for a long time, too. I feel like everything that happens in our lives effects how we are currently, and that includes our sexuality, so in that sense, yes, the abuse has an effect on who we are sexually. However, I don't think it can be as black and white as saying that your abuse made you asexual or my abuse made me a lesbian (that has been suggested to me in the past). I think that the abuse certainly was a factor in my sexual feelings, though not necessarily my sexuality as a whole, and it was not the root of it. I think the fact that many identify as asexual without having been abused adds weight to this argument.
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