Oh dear, you never ever have to apologize for posting again. Honestly, that's what we're here for.
Have you taken a look at
this thread about dealing with flashbacks?
I'm sorry that your anniversary is coming up. It is such a rough time and especially around this time of year with all the busyness that typically goes on.
Please post here more if it helps, and I really hope it does. Could you consider talking to a therapist to get some more tools to help you get through this? I've found that taking it easier on myself and allowing myself to be needy is helpful sometimes. So is keeping myself busy.