the right person will take you and your baggage and think it is the best thing in the world. they will see that you are a strong person because of all you have been through and where you have gotten to. as for bringing the things up i think it comes out naturally in the course of a relationship. i still find things out about my bf's past and we have been together for almost 10 years. and i would assume after being in destructive relationships it is hard to figure out who to trust with your feelings. work on that. i decided to tell people things that didn't bother me that much and were not super close to my heart and see how they reacted. that way i could gauge how they would handle the big stuff. i did that with my bf now and it was a good idea. things came out gradually. if i said everything in one lump i think he would have ran away screaming. i think you will find the right person at the right time. just don't rush it. (((hugs)))
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