It's a difficult one. I know sometimes in courts the phrase "implied consent" is used. Which basically means if a woman took a guy home, then got naked and lay on a bed even though she hasn't explicitly said she is consenting to sex, her actions would lead the majority of people to think she was. So although what happened upset you, and you have every right to feel upset, I wouldn't classify it as sexual abuse or sexual violence, unless he didn't stop when you asked him too as by cuddling him he could have interpreted your actions as meaning you wanted to be touched like that and then because you didn't tell him to stop, he might not have realised that you weren't enjoying it. However I do know that it can be difficult to speak up in a situation you aren't comfortable with. Have you thought of seeing your college counsellor to help you deal with the memory?
Take care
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