Originally Posted by
Heidi Tiger
Because if you are having intrusive thoughts about doing something. And you ask for support to "stop me doing x". It's very difficult to get adequate replies when people don't know what it is and people can't gauge the seriousness. There's a big difference between being triggered to break the skin or do something potentially fatal. And when your thoughts are that intrusive it's incredibly hard to make a post about it removing all references to tools and behaviours. In essence by tightening the rules you penalise those who are likely to be in most mental distress and are most vulnerable of doing themselves serious injury.
in my opinion, it's really to the contrary - getting support for something, whether it be feelings of suicide or being triggered or whatever - isn't dependent on giving details as to how you would/did go about hurting yourself. if the point of RYL is
support, then having rules against saying a particular tool puts the emphasis on the
root of the problem - the fact that you want to harm yourself in the first place - and that isn't going to affect whether or not you get more responses.
censoring out specific tools puts the emphasis on the feeling and the act, not the tool, therefore making it clear what you're going through without possibly tip-sharing or triggering people.
it's just me, but it's so much more triggering for me to read a post where someone gives details like that, and that actually makes me less likely to respond to the post. so...like i said. in my opinion it's the other way around.