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Heidi Tiger · 19-10-2008, 06:09 PM

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Originally Posted by atropine

in fairness if your question had just been relationships id have still said no. i cant understand why youd want to be in a long relationship so young - it SCARES me, asnd im a girl lol. i couldnt - i live with a girl who has been with her boyfriend for almost 3 years and they talk about marriage and shes only 20 - and i can get my head around it (shes one of these people with a plan) - i like to wind her up and say - what if your not married by 30, worlds of fun!
i think its kinda sad that people are always in relationships - thats my problem that i dont want to be with someone because im not into co-dependence, i couldnt stand needing or having someone need to phone or text them all the time, or be with them so many times a week. i want to be one - NOT a couple. and i find it really sad that friends of mine are always looking for someone, always go out on the pull because they cant be alone. theres so much more to life than that other person.

i appear to be in the miniorty in this - then again im bitter and hate relationships (not a good bad to ask me about this subject in honesty!)

A relationship doesn't mean you need to call or text someone all the time. I never text my boyfriend, we rarely speak on the phone, but we do talk on MSN fairly frequently. However, we certainly aren't in contact ALL the time, to be in contact that frequently sounds kind of obsessive and raises the question of wether there is total trust in the relationship. We both have our independence and our own friendship groups. We don't lose anything by being a couple, we only gain things.

19-10-2008, 06:09 PM	#56
Heidi Tiger Loon NOS Join Date: Jun 2007 Location: Nottingham I am currently:	Quote: Originally Posted by atropine in fairness if your question had just been relationships id have still said no. i cant understand why youd want to be in a long relationship so young - it SCARES me, asnd im a girl lol. i couldnt - i live with a girl who has been with her boyfriend for almost 3 years and they talk about marriage and shes only 20 - and i can get my head around it (shes one of these people with a plan) - i like to wind her up and say - what if your not married by 30, worlds of fun! i think its kinda sad that people are always in relationships - thats my problem that i dont want to be with someone because im not into co-dependence, i couldnt stand needing or having someone need to phone or text them all the time, or be with them so many times a week. i want to be one - NOT a couple. and i find it really sad that friends of mine are always looking for someone, always go out on the pull because they cant be alone. theres so much more to life than that other person. i appear to be in the miniorty in this - then again im bitter and hate relationships (not a good bad to ask me about this subject in honesty!) A relationship doesn't mean you need to call or text someone all the time. I never text my boyfriend, we rarely speak on the phone, but we do talk on MSN fairly frequently. However, we certainly aren't in contact ALL the time, to be in contact that frequently sounds kind of obsessive and raises the question of wether there is total trust in the relationship. We both have our independence and our own friendship groups. We don't lose anything by being a couple, we only gain things.
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