I was a little wrong when I said that SI is just about control. For me, it is largely about control and that's how I look at it. For some people it's about overwhelming emotions. For others, it's about punishment.
I'm sorry I gave you bad advice, sometimes I forget things. You know, you could point her in the direction of this website. There are some good articles on here and she's welcome to e-mail the supporters, as are you for that matter.
I am glad that you're trying to help her. I wish more people had friends (or boyfriends) that tried to understand.
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