People's expectations have a huge effect on me sometimes.
I find that what's laid on people in school can have a large effect as well. Too much emphasis is put on exams, in my view, and hardly enough on the importance of actually being a good person and trying your best in what you do. All that seems to matter is how many A's you get, how good you make the school look and how good you make the teachers look. Which is ****, really. When I was in primary school this used to really get at me, trying to make everyone proud and still now I feel like I do things for other people and not for myself.
Then with friends and people I know I think I have to be a certain way around them all the time because that's what's expected of me and it's very hard. Really draining and usually makes me feel worse. I want to make everyone happy and feel good and do the things I should be able to do but sometimes it's really hard to live up to all of that and I'm never sure can I.
So yeah, people's expectations, even if they don't actually exist, can have a big effect on me.
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