Well I think that if she is talking about the abuse or memories you should ask "would you like a hug/kiss?" before you actually do it, because even though we can tell your motives are just to comfort her, it could accidentally upset her. It would help to reassure her that you love her for who she is, and that you only want to do anything sexual if she is completely comfortable. If you are ever in the midst of omething sexual and you see her eyes fill with fear or she doesn't seem "there" stop for a moment and ask if she's okay. Also, I would def reccomend you tell her to talk to a counselor or therapist about this abuse and how it has affected her life. A professional could also help with her cutting along with recovering from being hurt. *hugs* Good luck
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