[Jay603]

Hi everyone, this is my first post, i read the stickies hope i've got it all right.

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I've been seeing this girl far about a month and a half now it i really like her. It's a long distance relationship (for teenagers anyway). She lives about 60 mile from me and we met at a summer camp.That is were i notice some scares on her wrist, nothing to bad but about a week after camp i was talking to her on AIM and i asked her about it. I just wanted to know why she cut her self. Not because I wanted to be an asshole but i used to cut myself too. I told her my story she told me her's and that kinda broke the ice for both of us. She hasn't cut in over a month now, i'm really proud of her for that. She still has low self esteam, i just talked to her on the phone and she gets stressed when it's not gonna do anything but waste her time. I talked her though it, shes gonna be fine.

Now this is what bothers me. Last sunday we were at the mall after seeing a movie. and she had told me that she needed to talk to me about something over the phone about 3 days before. She wanted to tell me in person. So i waited. She told me that she had been sexualy abused in previous relationship. First thing i did was give here a hug. Then she said that she had been having nightmares about "it" sence the week before when We made it to 3rd. Now i felt bad about it because i started he whole thing. I pulled her closer to me, i kissed her first, so on and so on. I know she was into it, later that night she started to return the favor then... her mother came into the room.

I felt bad because i had brought this all back to her. But i relized that it's just selfish to show my impulse emotions (making her feel bad for telling me). She has kinda shut down all my attemps to talk to her about and all i want to do is make sure that she is all right and help her get past this. It's not about me wanting to get in her pants, i would leave her if it would get her past this.

so if you have any advice let me know

other stuff that may help with your advice giving.

She is my first girlfreind, I'm 17 she's 16, I see her once a week, we talk for about an hour a day. I talk to her again at 9 to night

my grammar is bad i know, let me clearify if things don't fit quite right.

Thanks
-J