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Aidee · 23-09-2008, 07:28 AM

I think there is a fine line between being "pure" and going obsessively overboard.

I don't agree with the current media culture that uses sex to sell everything, and portrays sex as a way to have a good time with anyone else willing to give it up.

However, I really don't think it's healthy to abstain from any physical contact until marriage. Even the Amish aren't that strict!

I could really see it creating 2 different mindsets, netiher of which I think are all that great.

1. Physical contact is bad bad bad, no matter what the situation. Sex is evil, nasty and dirty and only leads to terrible things.

or

2. A deprivation/binge scenario, where after being deprived the girls go absolutely nuts and end up in even more trouble than if they hadn't abstained. Say you've never had chocolate for 24 years, and then suddenly you taste it, and love it. You loose all self control and engorge yourself with it, and the next thing you know you've gained 30 pounds and have diabetes.

For me, there is also the question about what they are teaching the men, and what they are teaching about birth control. If they aren't teaching the men to be as "pure" and they aren't teaching the women about STDs and STD protection they are setting the women up for a bad situation.

Even if you teach abstinence until marriage, teaching the women about BC options once they get married isn't going to hurt things.

23-09-2008, 07:28 AM	#3
Aidee Join Date: Mar 2004 Location: USA I am currently:	I think there is a fine line between being "pure" and going obsessively overboard. I don't agree with the current media culture that uses sex to sell everything, and portrays sex as a way to have a good time with anyone else willing to give it up. However, I really don't think it's healthy to abstain from any physical contact until marriage. Even the Amish aren't that strict! I could really see it creating 2 different mindsets, netiher of which I think are all that great. 1. Physical contact is bad bad bad, no matter what the situation. Sex is evil, nasty and dirty and only leads to terrible things. or 2. A deprivation/binge scenario, where after being deprived the girls go absolutely nuts and end up in even more trouble than if they hadn't abstained. Say you've never had chocolate for 24 years, and then suddenly you taste it, and love it. You loose all self control and engorge yourself with it, and the next thing you know you've gained 30 pounds and have diabetes. For me, there is also the question about what they are teaching the men, and what they are teaching about birth control. If they aren't teaching the men to be as "pure" and they aren't teaching the women about STDs and STD protection they are setting the women up for a bad situation. Even if you teach abstinence until marriage, teaching the women about BC options once they get married isn't going to hurt things.
Aidee Join Date: Mar 2004 Location: USA I am currently:	Well it breaks my heart to see you this way, The beauty in life, where's it gone? And somebody told me you were doing okay, Somehow I guess they were wrong.