Oh dear, this is a big problem, but it needs to be taken care of.
I think you should talk to him. Tell him that you noticed that he'd gotten some scratches on his arms and that he's been feeling a bit down. Ask him about it, pretty much just straight out. Even if he lies, you can still open a dialog, you can still talk about it. Tell him that you know that he knows that you hurt yourself. If he's said that he hasn't done it to himself, that he's just had accidents, that you're afraid that he's going to start hurting himself. Tell him about how you started and how bad everything is. You need to be brutally honest and make it sound as bad as you can make it.
There's a warning label for cutting floating around here somewhere, I'm sure if you searched for it, you could find it. (I'd find it for you, but I'm running late)
Show him your arms, or wherever you cut, only if he asks to help him to understand how bad it gets. You don't really want to scare him, but you do want to talk to him about it and get it out in the open. You do want to emphasize the negative aspects. Although, you may want to tell him why you do it too, if he asks. And tell him that you wish that someone had talked to you about it when you started.
Good luck. If you need anymore help, please post more.
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