not sure what to do...
 

OK, I'm sure how to say this without saying too mcuh so this probably wont make any sense.
I need to ask my boyfriend about something that happened years ago before I knew him. I need to know about this because I cant stop thinking and wondering about it and its got to the point where today I couldn't look at him, or let him touch me after something set me off to think about it.
I need to know, but it will upset both of us.
He will probably think I'm a cow for bringing it up and that I should get over it, and I'm probably just thinking the worst here.
But if the truth is as bad as I think then I will probably be more miserable than I am now, only without the boyfriend to comfort me.

So yeah, that made no sense.
I dont really expect any miracle answers, just wanted to get that out, maybe it will help me decide...

:crying:

i personally feel that being open is an important part of any relationship... though obviously without knowing what you are referring to I can't really say much... however, I do know how hard it is to bring important things up with those we care about and fear loosing... It is only natural to fear/think the worst, and that worst eventuality is rarely the one to come in reality...
ok, not sure that made much sense... feel free to PM me if you need someone to speak to off the boards, I'm online a fair bit in the evenings so will respond quite quickly and will do anything I can to help

thankyou,
im thinking of texting him, because i cant say it out loud.
it physically wont come out or my mouth and makes me feel sick.

arghh..

i sent it.
im screwed.

claire.
you'll be okay.
you've been together a while.
he obviously cares about you a lot.
it's better that you were honest with him now.
pm me if you need anything, okay?
xoxo.

=/
at least you did it.
be proud that you asked and tried.
it's better than nothing.

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Hey, hope you're ok after sending the text! But if you think about it, you've saved yourself a lot of grief in the long run. Now the two of you can talk it through and get over it now instead of dragging it out.

Hope it all goes well for you.

gah, bit late to offer advice, really.
i would have suggested that you said "i heard.........., is it true? or how come someone's saying that about you?"

i'd like to add my best wishes, and hopes that it goes well. sounds like it isn't going to be easy, but if people are saying stuff about it you can hardly ignore it can you? my PM box is open, if you want to talk it over.

Thnks guys, i got the truth and it wasnt all bad.
Feel better now.
Cant say much cuz he's in the room though...

*hugs claire*
i am glad you feel better, i am here if you need to talk

jane x

Glad to know things are better =)

yay =]