Man trouble lol
 

I have been with my boyfriend for just over a couple of months now. Couple of weeks ago he told me about his depression and his OD at the beginning of May. I appreciated the fact that he could share this with me. I offered my support along with advising him to seek professional help as he claimed to be of a similar state of mind to that which he was in when he OD'ed. He accepted my support but sneered at the thought of actually doing something proactive against his depression.

Now, as some of you will know, I have not been in the best of states lately. I supported him as best I could but found that it was impacting on me in a very negative way. I told him, in no uncertain terms, to go to the doctor about it. He went but wouldn't let the doc help him with meds or counselling. The best the poor doctor could do was to give him the same advice I had. After speaking with my psych about it I told Matt that if he doesn't proactively seek help then I will speak with his parents and get them to take him. He has since promised to speak with the doctor again but the way with which he spoke it was as if he was purposefully trying to delay it all. He knows I will be out of the country for about 3 and a half weeks shortly and I reckon he will just lie through his teeth untill I am in Germany unable to force him to get help.

Everything he says is negative and on Friday he let a one and a half minute telephone conversation with one of his teachers "poison" the entire day. He has taken on his brothers' greivances for himself and is immeasureably bitter and angry with a number of teachers he no longer has contact with. I would get more of an emotional response from a cardboard cut-out than I often get from him. He very often tells me that he was almost going to give up on females in general after being single for a year and that I saved him from losing complete hope. And because I am forcing him to get help he refers to me as a "blessing" and goes on about how we have the "real thing". I can't hack this relationship much longer, but with him telling me how much he loves me and how I am a blessing etc etc I can't see a way out either.

im sorry that i dont have anything to offer. relationships arent my strong point.
thinking of you.
much love.
xx

Prhaps you could work on him between now and when you go away. Ask him to seek help whilst your away. Its possible that the break might highlight for him what he risks losing if he dosnt get help. Use this to your advantage to getting him to seek help.

Perhps you could go to the doctors with him? Offer support there and help him. Tell him if the doc prescibe meds, to take the script, he dosnt have to get it fillied. You can always work on that issue when it next arises.

Good luck
Kim

Kim said pretty much what i was gfoing to...definitely offer to go with him, etc. Maybe it iwll be the push he needs. You also need to tell him a bit of how you feel. I wouldnt hit him with the fact that you aren't happy with him and thinking of leavong, but i WOULD tell him things are NOT good and he needs to take steps , which you'll support him, through.
Your health and well-being is important too
good luck
romp