multiple problems thread *possible triggers for ED and SI*
 

It's Nice To Be Unwelcome
well today seemed like a cool okay day nothing much was going on and we went shopping (bearing in mind i have recently moved as i keep saying) and well they normally go for breakfast after they go shopping but today they didnt because i was there: i felt so unwelcome it's not like i eat much in fact its not like i eat anything at all most days i dont understand how i can feel at home here (although my GF says i should)

shakes and venom
thank you if you have carried on reading this i am sorry i thought i would save space by combining my problems into one post,
i need a drink my head is spinning and i cant focus i am irritable and my GF cant get any sense out of me because we keep arguing i cant take this i need a drink i know its bad and i need to quit but i cant cope

chaos and the failure
the chaos of my life is failing into place and my SI is getting worse along with my ED and paranoia i try to make everyone happy i dont want to feel anymore i dont want to be here i wanna leave i know i cant because i need to keep my head above the ground and keep my GF happy and i need to support people on RYL i just dont care bout myself just aslong as everyone else is happy

summery
sorry for the rambling i didnt want be a post whore so i decided to lump it all together and just in the end i want to (i guess) is ask for some support about each of my issues and well thanking you in advanced
STEVE

you deserve our support mate anytime
 

Steve,
Hugs mate,

Im sorry mate you were made to feel so unwelcome, when you all should have been together having breakfast. I hope you can feel at home soon friend.

Hey of course i would carry on reading, dont worry about putting a few
difficulties in the same post, you have every right to talk about and ask for support about anything you need to. Hugs you friend.

I hear you about the need to have a drink, it must be very hard for you,
maybe because you havent had the drink its making you feel this way, and causing the arguements, Its clear you say you need to quit, and thats a brave statement, you have to really be convinced that you need to do it, to stop, for yourself, above anyone around you.

Can you get more support steve, its not an easy task, my ex struggled with the same. Maybe whats even harder steve is if you have alot of difficulties going on in your life and the drinking, trying to deal with the drinking is too much. Can you look at the issues and see if tackling one of them first may take away pressure and allow you to control the drinking. I hope im ok with trying to suggest stuff, please tell me to mind my own buisiness if i am.

Hey you are having a tuff time mate, it sounds like there is so much stuff happening , i hear you about the SI, You are such a caring soul, Maybe steve you are trying to make everyone else around you happy all the time,
above your own happiness, you must start to look at your own happiness
and help yourself, when you reach out to others more than yourself, you wont get any better. Its a harsh statement, but i myself got lost and didnt help myself, i threw everything i had into helping my ex at the cost of my healing and it made me worse. I hear you about not wanting to feel anymore, and not wanting to be here mate, hugs,
You sound the same as me mate always wanting others happiness above my own, wanting your gf s happiness, and your amazing support of others at ryl. You like me dont want to look into ourselves and help ourselves
first. I think mate you need to step back a little and start to look at yourself and start helping yourself, it doesnt mean you stop supporting
your gf or people at ryl, but spend some time on yourself mate.
you are just as important as those around you. I am still trying to do this with myself, its a work in progress, please keep going mate.

Never appologies for what you say is rambling, cause its not mate,
your welcome for wanting support, we are here to give what support we can.

hold on in there steve keep going mate
Dave

hi there...
its always hard replying after Dave because he is such a great supporter and always seems to have the right words.
i echo everything he has said and im so sorry that you are feeling so rough.
please try to hang in there.
will be keeping you in my thoughts.
much love.
xx

hey thanks for the support guys
you are amazing for taking the time to read my ramblings anyway i had a chat with my gf and we are going to sort out somethings and well i kinda slipped up again on the SI side of things but its all good i guess i am coping at the moment and well the support was amaizng thank you

well done steve
 

No worries Steve ,

like rach said we are here to support you and keep hanging in there. Hey we all care and of course wed take the time to read your thread.

Im glad you had a chat with your gf and thats great that you are going to sort out something. We are right there with you mate. its alright

And hey hugs your doing your best with your SI , we all slip up at times
look at me im still struggling myself, but your going in the right direction.
its a journey and it takes time and effort and your on your way. Its good Steve your SI is ok and safe right now, Its good too that you feel your coping right now.

your welcome for the support we are all here for you remember that.
thanks for the update, as rach says your in our thoughts

Dave

Aww Steve... I don't have much to say...glad to hear things are going a little better. Please remember to take care of yourself though...sometimes we get caught up in taking care of everyone else and neglect ourselves. To be sure supporting others is great (it can also be a great distraction), just please don't forget to take care of yourself at the same time.

Take care!

Alyssa