friend advice :(
 

I didnt really no where to post this it mite just belong in general advice but i put it here because of the reference to drugs n self harm, hope i put it in the right place,

i really need some advice on how to deal with a *friend* of mine, we havent been friends for long really but we get on great and we go to the same therapy group and we see each other every other day or so just to hang out, she used to be a heroin addict but now shes on methadone, and today she text me to ask to borrow £30 for heroin because she felt like S**T and needed it, i told her i couldnt lend her it and she sed it was ok, bt then half hour later she text me asking what i was up to (when id already told her half hour before) i told her i was watching my mate play football and i asked what she was up to and she replied *slashing my arms* i asked her why and she replied *cus i feel like it* so i left it at that then half hour later she text again saying *can i come out with you because if i stay in il do something stupid*, i dont know what to do, iv got plans for tonight with my boyfriend and i have been with the *friend* for the past 3 days and i want to see my boyfriend and mates tonight but i feel im being selfish and i should go meet her or something, am i being selfish?? i feel really quite angry that shes putting this on me, am i just a selfish bitch??

You're not a selfish bitch. Hmm, have you told her you already have plans? If not tell her you're sorry and you can't come out with her. Maybe ask her if there is anyone else she could go out with? Take care. xo.

You're not being selfish at all, lovely. It sounds as though she is being very unfair on you and making things difficult for you, and this shouldn't be happening.

A good idea might be to talk to the people in charge of/*running* your therapy group and explaining about how she's been. She may be angry at first, but you're doing the right thing and being a good friend by reaching out for help for her, at the very least.

Although this sounds like unnecessary guilttripping (saying that she's harming in the way she did, saying if you don't go out with her, she'll harm herself, etc.), it could still be an idea to let someone know so that both of you can get the help and space you need.

Let us know how you get on, sweetheart.

she did know my plans :( and she seriously has no one except her friends from her doing drugs, x

i would tell the people at therapy but they have this big thing that everything has to be descussed in the group and i couldnt do that to her,

i know shes lonely andi like having her as a friend but i also like seeing my other friends, my boyfriend is really good and if we go out he asks if i want to invite her, and i usually do i see her at least 5 times a week, and shes always going on about how great my bf is and asking if hes said anything about her and if he hates her, i think she may have a crush on him or maybe just a crush on the idea of being as close as me and my bf are.... i dont care bout that tho but the other day i saw her brother and we spoke for a min out side the local shop and he asked about her new boyfriend...whose aperently lovely and really sweet.... i was confused because she dosnt have a bf and her bro told me his name was jay (my bfs name) im just gettin a little bit stressed with it all i feel responsible for her and guilty for not doing what she wants because i no she has no 1 :(