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tanyafrias

21-03-2009 11:42 PM

i need advice

How do you deal with someone who is becoming addicted to drugs? My husband was clean 4 years and now he uses like everyday...(speed) and when he doesn't use speed he and i are fine but when he does and he comes down off of it he gets so mean...like today he was ok one minute cuz we were cuddling in bed and then like he got depressed and then got mad and said no one will be able to do anything right today everyone is gonna have a bad day. he packed up half of my stuff when i went out with his mom and sis and called me saying he wants a divorce and just being mean like calling me names. how do i deal with this like i've never had anyone in my life do dope and certainly not have as bad mood swings like being all lovey one minute to a complete A**HOLE the next. any advice would be much appreciated.

Katiee

22-03-2009 08:58 PM

Hun, I don't really have much advice as I've never been in this situation before. But could you possibly talk to him about how he is making you feel, make him realize he has a problem and needs help? Take care, we're always here. xo.

shadow-light

22-03-2009 09:04 PM

hmm... I dated a heroin addict for a while... one of the worst expiriances of my life...

problem with addiction is that you can't force the person to get help, they have to realise themselves that they have a problem...
you say he's been clean for 4 years, do you know how he got clean in the last time?

do you have any support? I know you want to help him, but you have to focus on yourself too.

maybe you could get him to consider couples therapy? maybe don''t say it's the drugs, just that things feel strained... then once yo'rte there hearing it from a third persons perspective may help him realise what's going on and what he' sdoing to you (and himself)

tanyafrias

23-03-2009 09:05 PM

thank you i'll try that *smiles*

Sleepless123

23-03-2009 09:12 PM

Good luck.Sounds like your dealing with a really difficult situation and i wish that i could be of more help.But let us know how it goes.i think your really brave.It must be very hard to cope with all of this.How are you doing now?Have you been able to talk to him anymore about any of it?We are always here to listen to you.Take care.

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