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extreme turbulance 21-03-2009 06:43 PM

Adult - Female Masturbation
 
okay so a lot of women do it but its not widely spoken of. Why is there such a taboo around the subject? Is it because men think that women shouldnt be able to get sexual pleasure without them?

And how come its ok for boys to sit in a lesson and say it but not girls?

Thoughts please

Dreamofunity 21-03-2009 07:45 PM

I've had a lot of female friend openly talk about masturbating.

Puppet Strings 21-03-2009 07:47 PM

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And how come its ok for boys to sit in a lesson and say it but not girls?
Huh?

I wouldn't say there is that big of a taboo about it, just that it's not seen as more common or frequent for girls to masturbate than it is for guys. Plus, guys are associated more with being sex obsessed, etc, and so masturbation is going to come under that.

something vague 21-03-2009 10:21 PM

ew i hate the word masturbate. WANK.

Narcissism 21-03-2009 10:50 PM

Because woman have class and the ability to not talk about wanking in everyday conversation.

Ratatouille strychnine 21-03-2009 10:53 PM

I see no taboo about it. I think it's fantastic. It should be encouraged.

Rodolphus 21-03-2009 10:55 PM

I'm not one to talk openly about it...

But I get embarrassed veeeery easily. *blushes*

lasting 21-03-2009 11:04 PM

yeah, i remember last year playing "i never" some guy said to drink if you've masturbated before and all the girls acted like it was this hugely embarassing dirty thing, while all the boys just drank without shame.... i was just like, uhh, i'm not going to be the only one who admits to it, but i do think it's silly to act like there's something wrong with it.

it's a perfectly natural, human thing. there's nothing wrong with it, but i guess it's more acceptable in society for men to openly discuss it.

Life and Lies 22-03-2009 12:03 AM

i know my female friends wouldn't admit to it, and i have never brought it up, but I have no problem admitting to guys that I masturbate

I remember a paticularly random conversation in the back of my RE class, with me and my best (gay guy) friend, talking about who we think about when we do

I dont really like the word masturbate either, but wanking is a guy word and fingering is just not right =/

so... as a female... I am not afraid to admit... I LIKE TOUCHING MYSELF!!

Field Of Paper Flowers 22-03-2009 01:21 AM

Men like to gossip about it with one another. Look at Two Pints Of Lager & A Packet Of Crisps! The two lads discuss the many ways they've masterbated. It's just what men do.

Masterbation is healthy, especially for men! If men don't masterbate it means their sperm can't be "released" so that more can be produced.

But I think more women are beginning to be open about masterbation. Or at least they should do! What men can say they can have multiple orgasms? ;)

linder surprise 22-03-2009 01:22 AM

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Originally Posted by Life and Lies (Post 1502275)
fingering is just not right =/

the word fingering makes me cringe so muchhhhhhhhh.


i think it is no biggie. generally i wouldn't really tell anybody i did it because it is none of their business unless it was like a friend or i wanted to tell somebody but idk because surely it's just a given. everybody i know male or female masturbates and i will easily assume somebody masturbates just like i assume that people poo & fart, even if they don't talk about it or i don't see them doing it.

shadow-light 22-03-2009 01:26 AM

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I've never done it... nor thought about it really... my boyfriend thinks this makes me a freak...



I think its basically that people expect men to be more sexually charged than women,,,

Field Of Paper Flowers 22-03-2009 01:30 AM

You aren't a freak for not doing it. You just don't want to do it, which is fair enough.

The following content has been hidden - Reason : Adult

I tell you what isn't appropriate? A girl in my class at uni asking "Just to get to know people, who's put something up their bum here?" and then moving on to say "Anyone done anal sex? Oh I love it!"


The hidden stuff above I feel is private.

rockaroni 22-03-2009 01:51 AM

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Originally Posted by linder surprise (Post 1502416)
the word fingering makes me cringe so muchhhhhhhhh.

Agreed.

Maybe I just have a very open group of friends but I'm not ashamed to say I masturbate, and neither are any of them, male or female. And it comes up in conversation from time to time, no big deal. Besides- how often do girls end up in conversations about vibrators? Does that not technically count as masturbating, as such? It's self pleasure at the end of the day...

Field Of Paper Flowers 22-03-2009 01:56 AM

I talk to two of my best friends about it but the other one isn't into it so I don't bother. I remember telling her I was thinking about doing it and she was like "Oh... Okay..." lol.

Nicholas 22-03-2009 02:01 AM

I think, fair enough to talk about it if it comes up in conversation between people who're more than just strangers to you.

I personally don't like to discuss it in too much detail considering...preferences I guess...It feels personal, almost like s/h does...I don't really know how to put it but...

It's very, VERY hard for me to think about people I know(or people in general to be honest) in a sexual way, I feel this strange mixture of guilt, shame, impolitness and self-disgust (And so on) if I try.

The weird thing is I'm very much open about having a thing about male homoeroticism(I go for the fluff, not the sex about 90% of the time, contary to popular beliefe), but when it comes anywhere close to me or reality...
Ehehehe...

Out of curiosity, when did people start (masturbating, and being sexually aware - fantasies and such)?

Dreamofunity 22-03-2009 07:00 AM

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Originally Posted by Life and Lies (Post 1502275)
so... as a female... I am not afraid to admit... I LIKE TOUCHING MYSELF!!

[ame]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zTneO6UgRuM[/ame]

KittenEyes 22-03-2009 07:25 AM

Hmm. Weird. Well, I know I have SOME girly friends who don't do it, or RARELY do it, which is kind of obvious to me because they are very tight, sexually frustrated people. Hmm, maybe there's a connection?

I masterbate a lot for a girl I guess... Or maybe not. I don't really know, but I do it whenever I feel like it! I did it a lot more when I was a virgin, and now it's just not nearly as good as sex so I don't do it as often, lol.

tigris 22-03-2009 09:50 AM

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I did it a lot more when I was a virgin, and now it's just not nearly as good as sex so I don't do it as often, lol.
I did it more when I was sexually fustrated/ had never had sex... now not so much. <!-- / message -->

extreme turbulance 22-03-2009 12:12 PM

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Originally Posted by Nicholas (Post 1502463)
Out of curiosity, when did people start (masturbating, and being sexually aware - fantasies and such)?

i went through pretty precocious puberty so i was fully developed by around the age of 10 so probably started around that time. i found it tough because all of my school friends were still very much little girls who were still squirming at the thought of sex so i felt pretty alone. it was around this time that i also began to seriously suspect i was a lesbian as well.


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