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the guy that raped me. that held me down and just. he was drunk, and i should never have gone to his place, but i thought he was a friend, but i got there, and he was drunk. and i felt so uneasy. i just wanted to leave, but thought i was being stupid. he kept trying to give me alcohol, but i drunbk little.
then he just, pinned me down.
i havent talked to him, or seen him, or really thought about him or what happened since then.
only to see him send me a friend request on facebook. i saw his face, the face that was so blank but so filled with...
and now im getting, flashbacks, i guess... and i feel this sick lump in my throat.
and yet again, i need a friend.
or at least someone advuice on how to make this stop..?

Erin i am so sorry that you are having flashbacks.

have you tried using grounding techniques?

I really dont have much advise to give you because i have never been able to cope well with stopping flashbacks.Just try to take your mind off it and getting a friend request of someone that has hurt you in the past is horrible.

*hugs tightly*

it will get easier for you soon.you are an amazing person.i am here if you need to talk

Jane x

Erin, you should have given me a poke!!!
It is really hard when you see someone from your past like that!!
He had no right to do what he did. Dont even think about trying to take any of that blame on to yourself!!

As for the flashbacks, huni, just try to ground yourself. Remember where you are focus on something. Listen to music and distract yourself.

*hugs*
Im going to go pokeyou on msn now!!

i rather pathetically just want someone to be here to hug me, and protect me from everything.
wishful thinking...

Not pathetic at all!!
You deserve to have that hunni. You really do.
And i do believe that you will find it.
I just hope its soon for you hun.

oh erin, im so sorry
give me a poke on msn if you like or PM
not good with handling flashbacks either so ne advice sorry...but here if you need ok luv??
romp
(leaves a box of *hugs*)

hi there
just wanted to say that i can really relate to flashbacks. they have probably been my biggest obstacle. and i still struggle with them. im really sorry. please take care of you.
much love.
xx

*hugs you tightly*
I'm afraid my support is very limited beyond just suggesting grounding techniques during the flashbacks and trying to focus on each sense in turn and let them remind of where you are.

You're a really amazing person and if I could afford it, I'd be on the next flight out to SYdny to give you a hug right now. Instead, you'll have to make do with *holds you tight and safe and cuddles you for as long as you need*

I can't offer any advice but I can offer understanding. A person who upsets me very much and features in most of my worst memories added me on myspace and it was extremely painful to see her face and read about her. I am so sorry this has happened.