both struggling
 

Im finding things hard atm. Rusty's on a low so I'm trying to take on more household stuff to take pressure off him but it just puts the pressure on me instead and i cant cope. Ive rung the parent and baby psych unit to see if i can go in for crisis care this afternoon but they havent rung back yet. rustys on his way home from uni. harlans whinging. dog chewed the carper so had to replace it. got no money. feel like harming but its been so long, dont want to mess up. cant go on like this indefinitely though.

*sending you lots of hugs* can you try ringing the unit again to see if you can get in? I don't have much words at the moment, but am thinking of you.

Honey, I think you have done the right thing phoning for help.

I really hope they get back to you as soon as possible. Posting is another positive step.

Keep posting and talking, distract yourself from harmful thoughts.

I really do care Love Jade xxx

Thinking of you - hope you're OK...

They rang back and said theyve got no nursery support available. thats cos all the bloody staff have left and the management havent bothered to replace them. "but you still get supprt here" yeah, 2 hours a week. It was 3 days a week and its been slashed down to this on the understanding i could go in if i was struggling. hmmm.

urgh sorry to rant, just feeling a bit abandoned. thing is, ive got no family round here (theyre all at least 2 hours drive away) and no friends who arent either depressed thermsleves or live too far away cos i dont drive.

just feeling alone and al my supports been taken away

Have you got a CPN or someone who can come to the house and support you.

My health visitor use to come and visit me once a week when I needed extra support. She was very good at listening to me and although that sounds pathetic it really helped.

I also used Sure Start or something like that when my youngest was born who came and visited me and gave me a befriender. It helped so much, they also helped me with my little boy and did jobs round the house. Also we got on so well she would look after Bailey while I had a bath or did stuff round the house.

It just made me feel less alone. That people cared. It helped me to struggle less because at the time my Hubby was working shift work and I was trying to cope with 2 children and a baby. I needed support.

Just a thought honey xxx
Love Jade xxx

I hope you are ok. Around here the council has family support workers who can visit when people with children need extra support. I don't know if thats a nationwide thing but it can be a big help.

remember that if the household things are cleaning / washing type jobs, it's ok to leave them for a few days because sometimes we all need a rest.