i'm not crazy, right?
 

I'm being painted as the manipulative one here and sometimes I think it's true. 'you ignored the phone again..' says mom impatiently. And throws a fit when I won't let her pack my things for me. I demanded fair treatment in that conversation just now. That it needs to be okay for me, a 21 year old, to pack my own stuff. Mine. She said well I'll have to get over it if you won't go along with it. Yes. That is right. YOU WILL. They think I don't want to communicate with them, yet they've been ignoring me.



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it feels like they're dead. i've been grieving the loss of my relationship with my dad.

i feel like i messed it up, when i look at the facts though, i finally acted as an adult. and that's their problem with me. i'm an adult.


this makes it clear. i need to get away. if they want to ignore me, it would be hard, and sad, but nice, because...then i can have a life of my own. i'll have to create it, but it'll be all my own.

You're not crazy at all. Sometimes parents just dont listen for one reason or another. I think it can be quite hard for a parent to see their child grow up and she may still see you as a little child. It might be an idea to write a letter to them, then at least they can see that you are trying to communicate and it is their choice as to what to do with it, whether to respond or to ignore it. Unfortunately we cant be responsible for other people's actions, so you can only do what you can do.

Take care

It sounds like getting away from them is a very good decision. You're right hun.... at the age of 21 you should be able to make your own decisions, and if think you can manage without them, then go for it. You're mom and dad will soon realise how much they miss you when you're gone, and you'll probably find you'll have the relationship with them that you've always wanted when you're not living with them..... you're happiness is the most important thing in all this hun.

Take care
*hugs*
Chrissy
xxx