help! men!
 

Right... ive known tom nearly 5 years, when i first met him he had two week then was going into the army, always stayed friends over email and then when he was on leave go out etc, nothing had happened up until he had come back a few weeks ago.
We had always met up in a big group although always got on well, he invited me to meet up with just him... so i did, got on well, kissed but that was all.

I kinda asked him what he wanted (as his all affectionate says nice things, but then again ive never known what his like with girls so i dont know whether his saying them to get whatever or saying them because he means it, but his a lovely bloke so i dont know?!) anyways... as i said what is this...fun or...? and he said fun spend time together see what happens? i think thats mainly as when he said he wants to spend more time with me last i blank faced him and was like errrrrrr dont do involvements im so cold on the outside but really i dont mean to be like it, cant show emotions!!
All going ok, i wasnt getting to involed playing the whole hard to get, dont go further than kissing he doesnt try anything else on so... (met up 4 times, 3 of them have been just us together - his not known for behaving either (!!)


Then last night he said he was going out somewhere else, good i have a girly night.
TUrn up then half hour later his at same place?!! Fair enoughs thats fine ,say hello, he starts talking to me, so we talk then he goes off with his mates i go off with mine.

THEN, he comes up to me and says " i cant really talk or kiss you tonight as my ex is here and i promised i wouldnt kiss any one" So i said " ok but shes an ex does it matter?" he says "im just trying to be nice" so i point and say, best you go that way then.

So then he tries to talk to me again later on and keeps looking at me and kinda tries to get me to dance to him, then christina agulara dirty comes on HA! so i dirty dance by myself / with friends and his like comeeeeeeeeeeeee hereeeeeeeeeeeee.
But i didnt.


Then THENNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNN he comes up to me and says im going home, WITH his ex in tow!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! My friend said she heard him say that he will go home and talk to her and thats it, she was kinda all over him but he was having none of it so dunno...
I turned my phone off as i cant be doing with being messed about and didnt want him to ring


When turned phone on this morning got message saying : "Hey ya babe, im sorry about tonight i really f*cked everything up by trying to be nice to everyone when i should have just f*cked them off and stayed with you cos i really like you and hope you like me too, i just hope we can stay good x x"
THis was at 3:33 this morning so i reckon he ended up sleeping with her and his feeling guilty? And plus thats drunk talk.

ARGHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH

what do i dooooo?? Do i phone him or txt him or...? leave it??
He has tried to phone me too but i didnt answer...

hmm, how much do you like the guy?
maybe give him a text, see what he has to say for himself other wise you're just going to be thinking things that may not have even happened.

i don't really know what else to say and seeing as this was posted yesterday you've prolly already decided what do/done something already.

take care
x

Just talk to him, this won't get sorted unless you talk to him & see what he was thinking. Hope all goes well. xx

Confusing.
I'd agree with Lanny and Charcoal Feathers... You need to talk to him.
Phone him when you have time to talk..
Does seem a little odd how he was acting around his ex.