Big Spender
 

I haven't made a thread in a long time..... I see many new names around and while that also makes me happy to have people join our family, i cannot help but feel a little alienated from vets corner.

I am not around that much anymore..... Sure, i still have problems but i am slowly getting stronger..... I was here back when Harley made a vets corner..... I was here when everything was crap and i was ready to give up..... With the help from people here i am still among you today..... And now i'd like to ask again for some of your wonderful words of support....

I am getting better. But i have a huge problem that often brings me down because it's ****ing with basic needs..... Money!!!!! MOney is my problem.

I am on early retirement. I should be able to live, and live well, but that is not the case. I spend WAY too much on myself. Right now i owe the bank a good deal of money. It's gonna be paid back on monday but dammit people, i am sick of having to live like this.

I buy clothes, jewelry, bags, shoes like there is no tomorrow..... Tuesday i had spent all my weekly income and my mum had to loan me a lot of money so i wouldn't starve..... Now i have overdrawn my account again....

I am in debt. And i have tp pay that money back while i balance on the egde of a knife's blade to try and afford cigarettes and food.

You may call me stupid. In fact, i'd like you to call me stupid!!!! Because that is exactly what i am. I spend too much on myself. Spoiling myself in a way that i cannot afford.

Next week i am gonna spend money on food and smokes only (yeah right!!!!). I will be strong and not buy clothes or anything (HA!!!!).

I feel so small and selfish..... When i see something i like i just buy it. I don't think of the consequences....

Will you guys please yell at me a little and call me a ****ing stupid asshole????? Because that's what i need to hear. That i'm a moron....

How about setti yourself a limit to how much you can spend. Maybe theday you get your money, do a big food shop to last you the week. That way you know that you wont starve.

Get rid of all bank cards that allow you an overdraft. If you cant access it you cant use it. Shopping can be fun and we all over spend at times, but most shops do refunds. If you get stuf home have a think over night, do youreally need the item. If not take it back again the next day for a refund.

Also, how about maybe banning yourself from going near any shops on a couple of days a week. Find something fun or differnt to do on those days. A walk in a park. A game of snooker in the pub. Anything. Just something other than shopping.

Take care
Kim

i dont have a big problem but i tend to not be able to help myself with shopping sometimes and i find that the best things i can do are not go into town (no good if you shop online) and also i find things i do need to buy like present for birthdays etc as with me i dont care what i spend money on i just love shopping. this way i still get my "fix" but im actually buying useful stuff too. oh also i started making cards and selling them so i make a bit of money back so i can buy more card makin stuff without getting into debt!!

its good to see your doing a bit better overall though hun :)

sam

xxx

*knocks self out*

I KNOW i replied to this!

mmm...

OK I am a stupid you know what!!!!

And if i cant call myself that that you cant call yourself that. I am sorry dear, but you just arent.

Sitting on the knife is pretty dangerous.

something that a fellow friend once told me. Go shopping in your own closet.Take out everything. and "spend money on it" I f you are like me then you should have some clothes with tags still on it. So buy again, but this time put it in Zurgs fund. it will grow and you can pay off bills.

It is amazing what you will find at the back of a closet!

Then do the same in your drawers. Invite a friend over for a show or something girl silly.

Yeah, me thinking of it makes me giggle. With a beautiful bod like your though you should have fun.


Thinking of you,
Rain


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i love to spen too. it is a disease as ,much as this other junk we live with.

I understand money troubles. I would, though, try to go food shopping at the beginning of the week or whenever you get your money so you don't run out and so you'll have at least the food part covered. I was getting to that point of knife balancing for a bit about a year ago and I set a limit that I could take out of my account for myself per week. It really helped. Also my bf threw away his atm card so that he could only get money from the bank if he went to the bank and took it out. Out of sight out of mind I guess is the motto for that. Good luck with it. I hope your money troubles get better.

Money's tough... and it's hard to be tough with yourself to help balance the budget, but to not be hard on yourself.... Sigh to money. We should barter instead. :)