A bit advice for those who lost a loved one to suicide.
 

I'm not gonna make this a whole long post, but my best friend killed himself last year.
I found something that really helped me deal with my feelings.
I wrote a letter to him.
And I guess this could help anyone, not just people who have lost someone to suicide.
It really helped me, and I sort of made it into a journal. Whenever I feel sad about it, or miss him, I write 'to him' and it really helps.
Maybe people can share how they've coped with loss?

xNicole

That's a gorgeous idea, and i'm sorry to hear about your loss. I've had a loss to suicide too and it can be a very difficult thing to cope with, I'm glad you've found something that can help you.

For me, it is much the same thing. I will write in my Live Journal under a tag of her name, so that if I need to grieve I can still remember her. Also, there was a memorial website made for her which (despite being incredibly sad) is also useful for the grieving process because you can leave comments on it, to her, to the family.. to anyone really.

That is why I created the thread in this forum Messages. *Possibly Triggering*, so other people can express themselves through writing - too. Just like you have said in your post, it can be a bit of a relief to get it out.

I find writing helps because it expresses what you don't have the ability to express to the person - but it still gets it out of you, and that's the important thing. I write letters to her as well, not often now, and I find it's a sign that I'm getting a bit better with the amount of grief I am holding inside me.

I also pray to her, talked to her in the earlier days, and had a general faith that she was 'watching over me'. As corny as it sounds.

Sometimes a good cry is enough for me, too, to express that emotion of grief - again, about getting it "out" in a constructive waya (i.e. not self harm) so sometimes I'll listen to sad songs and cry (in a safe environment) and that also allows me to acknowledge I'm still deeply grieving, and I need to take care of myself.

I like the idea of this thread, it's very sweet. I hope you're doing alright.
*squishes*
Love Aimee xo

Writing is a really good idea, and you're correct, writing could help anyone. Writing to someone who you have lost can help you to feel closer to them and feel as if you can still talk to them although they can't communicate back. It can also help to get things off your chest and out on paper or on a computer screen so that they seem more 'real'. I used to write letters to my mum every day, now I talk to her sometimes and pray to her every night.

I hope that you are well. Please get in touch if you need anything. Take care. xxx