What hurts the most...
 

I'm in love with my best friend Dan, he knows I have a thing for him, but the problem is that he doesn't feel the same way about me. However he still is my best friend, we hang out a few times a week. The problem is that whenever I hang out with him, he will say something about some girl he is dating, and it makes me so sad to remember he doesn't like me like that and wont ever love me in the way i want him to.
After I hang out with him i get really depressed, and down about everything. Should I still be his best friend and deal with being depressed all the time or should I cut him out of my life? I dont know what to do. I love him so much. :confused:

Don't cut him out of your life completely. Eventually you will get over him. Talk to him about how intensely you feel about him. If he says once and for all he doesn't have that sort of feelings for you, you can begin to get on with your life. There will be other guys out there. If you really can't take being depressed everytime you see him, just see him a bit less, but dont get rid of him completely. Its not worth throwing away your best friend over.
April xx

I agree with what April has said. *hugs tight*

I was like this a few years ago. (well, he had a girlfriend) and I asked him politely to stop rubbing it in by talking about her all the time. So anyway, instead of saying her name, he'd say 'we' instead which was even worse...

I understand this I am very much in love with the guy who is my best friend and I know what you mean, I always feel really down after I have spent time with him. He knows and has known for ages that I really like him and he is usually really good about it although we do have rough days. I don't know what more I can say, just hang in there *HUGS* here anytime if you want/ need to talk

I've been exactly whre you are. I was in love with the guy for 5 years. He knew. He talked to me about all his girl problems, there was me screaming in my head I WOULDNT DO THAT TO YOU!!
We started to lose contact, after 4 years, I spent the next year thinking I was over him but everytime he was mentioned or I saw him I ran off, stomach flipping, head spinning. I'm finally over him. 6 and a half years later. We have nothing to do with each other anymore. That helped.


Some people say it's better to be friends than nothing.
If you feel that strongly about someone and you can't have them the way you want, maybe it's best not to have them at all.

The idea of not seeing him might tear you apart, I understand that, having been there. I don't know what you should do. Everyone is different.

Good luck hun. I hope you feel better - this is such a horrible thing to go through. If you want to talk, pm me anytime. Take care. Gemma. xxx