divorce...
 

i still cant get used to it.

i hate it. dads 200 miles away with his new life and that

mums at his evey nite until he moves in.
i dont want him to move in i really dont.
its horrible.

i feel so bad for being so horrid to mum but i cant help it i hate whats shes done.

pleas someone tell me it gets easier?
coz right now im on the edge of loseing it. i hate it.
feeling so pushed out by both parents. sounds silly i know.
*sighs*
xxx

i did have a counsellor at college but as iv left college now i dont.
yeh i cant talk to mother. you got that right.

its just so horrible and i hate it. im struggling to kind of accept that its happend if u get me!
xxx

i dont know. beacues my parents dont know anything about me having problems and i should be starting work in a couple of weeks.

i talk to my dad everyday. i do try and talk to him about how this is affecting me but its so hard to open up to him.

I understand it being hard to open up to your father about how it is affecting you... have you tried writing it down and showing it to him... also your dad can't help you unless he knows what is going on for you hunni...

Claire...

i think you should really speak to your parents about how you are feeling.

bottling it up wont help anything

Divorce is always hard on everyone involved, i think, parent's often forget that it effects the kids, even the older teenage ones a lot.

I know it's hard, but do try and speak to them about how you're feeling, because it really might help and explain to your mum about how you feel about her partner moving in.
If you think you'll find it too hard, maybe write them a letter, or tell someone who is close to your mum or dad so they can tell them for you.

And, do try and see about getting a counsellor again, if it helped you out before.

Take care
x

i will try and talk to dad when i see him.
or on the phone.
it just hurts so much to even think about it.
i want to upset them and make them feel bad. i feel bad enough already!

i'll get there. thanks for your replies xxx

Even if you just come here and vent to us or call a friend when you need to talk it's better than bottling everything up.
I'm sure with time you'll come to accept what has happened.
NEVER blame yourself!

I'm always here if you need to talk x

i hope the talk with your dad will help.
i understand its not easy but if you are mature and honest about how the whole thing effects you it will be so much better for you.


i understand you want to hurt htem for hurting you..do you really think that would change anything?

if you really are unhappy being at home and seeing your mum with another man then maybe its time to look into moving out of your house...you are 18 so you can legally leave.

one more point..would you not rahter your parents happy and apart than miserable and together?
take the positive from this...

i hope that evry thing gets easier for you and i wish you all the best.

it is going to be hard but you will get through it and soon things will be moresettled for everybody.

Im sorry that this is so difficult for you.

it dose get easy my dad left on my 5th birthday and i dont know why it took so long but the divorce all went though on my 10th birthday some times it's still hard but i had to get use to it and i now c it better they r not 2gether as i'm starting to remember wot life was like when they was they was fighting all the time to the point my mum hit my dad was a fone and my dad hit my mum wit something so i guess i'm saying :

1) it dose get easyer
2) some times it's better them being apart

i hope ur ok babes

love alison

Divorce is a very distressing time for everyone. Just remember it's better for your parents not to be together and happy, than be together and unhappy.

Although it's hard now, things will settle down and get easier.

Have you tried talking to your mom about how you feel about the situation?

Take care.