Reported, but scared
 

I've been verbally, and occasionally pshysically, abuse by my parents for years...well, a dear friend of mine reported the abuse (i had tried to do so before, but always had a panic attack when i did)...

Im confused and scared. i dont know what'll happen next...im also afraid of losing contact with my girlfriend and my dog (though that seems likely :crying: )....

i dont know anything about this process, im just lost and in need of advice....

If you're in the UK I think social services will get involved, and you'll have to talk to a social worker and maybe the police. I'm not entirely sure though.

*gentle hugs* try not to worry about it too much, I know it's confusing and scary but you can't really do anything about it for now. Maybe ask whoever your friend reported it too? They might know what's going on, or give you a number of someone who can explain it all to you.

Good luck with it hun, take care xx

Good luck with all huni, *hugs* sorry i dont have much more to say

Stay safe xx

Good luck with it.

As for what happens first, Social Services will come and talk to you if you're a minor. I THINK. I could be wrong, it does depend on what country you're in. It's what's supposed to happen in the US.

If you really want to know for sure, you could stop by the police station and ask.

It also depends on how much your friend told the cops in her report.

im in the US for those who asked.

im worried though. i have anxiety problems, and im worried im gonna break down crying during the follow-up interview, or just say everythings fine when it isnt....

I know how hard it is to tell the truth about this sort of thing. It's one of the hardest things in the world. Can you practice with your friend about what to say? Practicing helped me to say things I couldn't. Sometimes they'll even let your friend be with you while you talk, depending on how old you are.

Please don't back out. It's so much harder to get back in after you back out.

i know it is, im just afraid i wont have any control. when im depressed or having a panic attack, its like im in a trance

It doesn't matter if you cry hun. I have had loads of them interviews, once I lay on the sofa and refused to say anything the whole way through, and they are used to it. Tell them you are scared too, they will take it slower.

I'm glad that things are going to get sorted, even though it'll be scary and hard to deal with. You've just got to stay strong, and be brave. Remember that the interviews and things won't go on forever, so the more you tell them and the sooner, the quicker things can progress.

I wish you the best of luck, and don't be afraid! x

alright. im just worried they wont believe me then
i can tell myself that now, but when it happens, i might just lose it again..

Not much to add but well done and stay strong!
xx

im not strong..

Oh hon... It's not great that you lied and said you weren't abused. But it is understandable.

I told people I wasn't abused as well.

Please, if you can, grab a friend and go to the police and tell them the truth, that you were too scared to tell them the truth.

i have no one to come with me..

*holds you* You know I would go with you if I could. Maybe you could print out this page and take it with you, so you can look at it and remember what to say?
I have lied about it before, its not good, but its repairable.

i dont wanna tell the truth no more. i wanna rough it out, too weak for the unknown..

*hugs*
jack i know you can do this
ive seen you around the safe room abit, and you're strong

like someone said, you should print this page, and show them

please try to keep going and trying, you can end all this with your parents and be happier

im not strong